EPI 17: Bipolar: How Do I Become Someone Able To Make My Dreams Reality?
Welcome to the Bipolar Excellence Podcast, Episode 17: How Do I Become Someone Able To Make My Dreams Reality? This is another in the series of the Life Of An Outsider. You’ll find the link in the footer of the website. bipolarexcellence.com.
Well, this is all about reinvention of oneself. There is no way to pound all that information, in a way that would keep you listening, inside one podcast episode.
This is the reinvention of one’s life, because that’s what you need to do to make your dreams a reality. The you, that you are and your way of living up to this point, that’s what got you up to this point. To get to whatever the next point is, you’re going to need to be a slightly, at least, slightly different person.
And you’re going to have to do things you’ve never done before, because you’re trying to go after something you’ve never had before.
It’s going to be a little struggle for me to boil this down into something useful, without carrying on too much in any one direction.
What you’re looking at, I’m going to do my best, what you’re looking at is introspection and retrospection. That’s one. With introspection, you need to come to better understand yourself in a way you never have before, because you already hold the answers you need. Seriously.
You really do have everything you need on board now to become whatever it is you need to do next.
Retrospection, you need to be able to pick apart your past and see the thread, the through line through everything you’ve ever done that got you to now that you did enjoy or like, or feel satisfaction with doing or brought the kind of good results you want in life. You’ve got to find that through line.
Both of these things are going to need third party assistance. You can get it from coaching. You can get it from a therapist. I’m going to throw some tools your way that’s going to speed it up.
One is Holosync from centerpointe.com. That’s Centerpointe with an E. It’s a scientifically based meditation system. Has a beginning and an end really. I think, last I ever checked, it’s like six years.
Honestly, never finished it myself, but I did it for two years. And I couldn’t believe the changes that happened. And I’m dying to get back to finish the four remaining years. Just in the two years that I faithfully did it, my life changed before my eyes.
Whether you use Holosync or not, you need quiet time, which is what that provides in part, in part. You need quiet time. You need meditation. You need to be alone with your thoughts and to just ponder things.
Well with true meditation, you don’t ponder anything. You need to turn the whole, your whole thinking off.
You need to let the brain breathe on its own in a way that you don’t have conscious control over. And you don’t want to be thinking about anything. Centerpointe makes that effortless. Plus the the system makes things happen inside your mind that when you come out of meditation, you will start figuring out what it is that’s in you that makes you tick, much easier.
You will function better. Your brain will literally function better. And there’s too much to say about all of that. Just go check them out. Or if they’re not your cup of tea, find something. There’s all sorts of stuff out there for meditation that’ll comfortably allow you to meditate. You need to be alone, quietly, not even thinking. So that when it’s time to think you do so better.
Retrospection. One of the things that tricked me out for a minute, when I was trying to figure out what it was I wanted to become ,when I took a hard look at the through line and all the dozens and dozens of jobs I’d had, and all the bizarrely unique experiences and situations, I’d gotten myself into, two things, stood out more than anything.
I seem to always have the most interesting stories to tell. And I was the one that could make everyone in the group laugh easier than anybody else in the group. I thought that meant I should be a standup comedian. Makes sense. I also love comedians deeply. I love that group of people. I love the ways in which they’re warped and why and how they’ve turned it into comedy.
I believe comedians, no matter how hideous, the things they are that they’re joking about might be. They’re the philosophers of the ages that are easiest to listen to. And if you can pick them apart, if you can tease out every everything about these people, if you do the research separate from their jokes, there’s a lot to be learned directly and indirectly that’ll help you do better in life.
But I was not… I have no desire to be a standup comedian. So the end result was I ended up doing what I’m doing with you here now. This is what I belong doing. It leads to me working with people as a coach or an advisor or consultant, depending on what the situation calls for.
And that’s when my vast experiences and all these odd areas of my ability to keep things light and fun, get a chance to be expressed and used for the good of others. Now, another major thing you’re going to want to do to become someone able to make your dreams reality, all the personality tests and strength tests.
You got to find out what makes you tick.
If you’ve never taken any of these tests, you’re just sorta spit balling and winging it. If you’re even doing that. There’s a company called Kolbe, Kolbe.com. That’s K O L B E.com. They offer a test that’s very quick to do, very cheap and it will show how you do anything, in a handful of life’s major categories.
There’s no right or wrong. There’s no winning or losing. No good or bad. You either are awesome at something and should be doing it all the time. Or you’re tolerable at something that can do it for short runs of time, but you need to get back out. Or you should never be doing that thing in the first place. That’s a very crude description of what you’ll find within doing their Index a test.
There’s Via, V I A. They have a different way of showing you what you’re about that I found quite useful.
There’s Clifton Strengths. If I remember right, Clifton is off of Gallup, the people that see what people like to watch on TV. Clifton’ll show you some strengths you have in yet a different way.
What was that other one I used? There was another one I was fond of. There’s the Enneagram. I reverse engineered that as well as another one from another guy, cause lotta these things are similar.
I was able to reverse engineer just by reading all their free material and understanding how these things work.
And I was able to derive what I was in these two systems, at least, in a way that was quite helpful to me.
And then the cool thing was when I wrote out summaries and then laid these things all side by side on a tabletop, now I could see what the through line was. And in my case, it is the stories I have to tell.
My life has been so extensively varied that I’ve sampled friendships and working relationships and events with people of every stripe and color, under all sorts of circumstances, to where it gives me a pretty good idea of what you might be up against that you’re trying to fix. I’ll know enough about it that I can be effective in helping you solve certain issues.
The comedy stays. One of the tests, I think it was Via, V I A, humor is my number one strength. You’ll get to hear more of that when we get into interviews. With me talking and teaching, this isn’t quite the way that I’m able to express my humor the best.
But I make things humorous cause it takes the edge off of some pretty brutal scenarios.
I do that now in my current job at a halfway house, I can pull someone back from the brink in a conversation, just with humor. And it’s gotta be done just right so that it’s still respectful. And I can say some of the most God awful things that are so out of place and so, oh, cancel culture ish.
But in that setting with these people, in my case, it’s all men, it’s what they want to hear, the way they want to hear it. So that they can understand what I’m trying to tell them. So they can have a breakthrough to stay sober or straight or find the positivity in sometimes God awfully hideous situations, some of these guys are endoring.
So that’s my through line. And you need to find yours. And I tapped myself out just in explaining that. I’m drawing a blank as to what to say further. So the bottom line, you’re going to have to become a different person and it’s going to be a lot of work. It’s going to be uncomfortable at times. It’s going to require you to loosen up your your self perspective.
It’s going to cause you to… you’re not only not going to see reality the same way as you learn these things, you actively want to see reality in a different way, as you learn some of these things.
Because how you view reality… well, let me go a different way. You’re not viewing reality. You’re living it. Jim Carrey said something like this.
You’re not the projector. You’re the screen. You’re the doing of it. Whatever you think and feel and believe, is what’s creating your life. Life isn’t happening to you. You’re happening to life. So we need to figure out a way to help you happen differently, so that you can meet these new goals that are burbling in your system and soul.
I can help you with that. Go over to bipolarexcellence.com. There’s a tab says work with Ken, do whatever seems right from there. I’m here if you need me guys be well.