
EPI 50: Bipolar Dreamer: I Believe In You!
EPI-50: Bipolar Dreamer: I Believe In You!
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That Dream Of Yours? I Got Your Back!
This is a risky move on my part. And yet, maybe not so much.
Bipolar people have insights, perspectives and wisdom gained only through the creative crucible that is bipolar.
We can change the world, right or wrong.
If you’ve found some level of stability within your bipolar ride, you’ve probably been realizing what I said above is true.
You simply know things that others around you can’t comprehend.
But because bipolar is a part of how you gained this awareness, you either doubt your own thoughts and feelings, or those around you do, due to the stigma of the illness.
In either direction, this is understandable.
But There’s A Way To Share Your Thinking Without Bipolar Mucking Up The Delivery
This is where it can get tricky.
If you’re still actively bipolar, you may be experiencing mania. Mania allows us to lie to ourselves. Or it gets us so excited, the message gets delivered poorly.
Either way, mania has to be settled before moving forward.
Some left over buzz is acceptable. But ALL buzz is bad.
You can be excited but not in an overpowering sense.
When I’m Excited, I Pause
I learned a long time ago that if I’m extremely excited about a project, I need to first sleep on it before executing its beginning.
Too much excitement can blind us to certain realities.
Assuming mania is not the main driver of your plan, you often run into the next thing.
No One Believes In Your Plan
This is a case of “The Boy Who Cried Wolf.”
We’ve taken people down this path before, only to use them up and/or use up their faith in our ability to distinguish total pipe dream from reality.
This is natural. Sad but natural. Track records and such.
But That Doesn’t Mean We’re Always Wrong
Bipolar people have fresh ways of seeing life. And these alternative perspectives are needed now, more than ever before.
The Old Ways are crumbling.
Assuming you are more stable than not, this is the era of open-minded thinking being the only way through.
This is the era of lessening restriction, in which new ideas can easily find support.
Because New Problems Require New Thinking
And that’s where you come in.
I already understand that people like you may have the answer so many others seek and I want to see you get the word out.
We’ll need to reshape some of your approach to marketing, and we’ll need to reshape some of how you even see yourself as a person, a creator, and maybe even a leader.
This is all I am about.
And I got your back!
Transcript
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Hey, this is Ken Jensen. I beat bipolar disorder in an all natural fashion back in the mid 2 thousands. And believe it or not, that’s not even the coolest part of my story.
What I learned through that process and what came next and how that applied to bipolar and why bipolar was ever even part of the process, was mind blowing to say the least.
Bipolar has hidden within its strengths. I’m gonna show you what I mean and how they’ve shown up in my life so you can do the same. Hello. Hi functioning, bipolar creative types.
It is Christmas day 20 22. So Merry Christmas or Happy holidays which 1 of those works for you. I don’t have any Christmas news to report per se, but I am excited to bring you episode 50 titled bipolar Dreamer. I believe in you.
I’ve been itching to reach episode 50 because it’s a nice solid milestone within a show. Fifty’s a nice number to hit. This is my third podcast that I’ve created. And I’ve made it as far as episode 52, I believe, with 1 of them.
And it hit, like, 48, I think, with with the other. So this one’s gonna keep going because the other 2 created the the grist for the mill that eventually clarified what show number 3 should be.
1 of the things I face as a as a creator myself. I don’t build things. Not really. I can put together systems, but I don’t create them from scratch. I just link together stuff that already exists.
And make it go. And I have struggled mightily over many years trying to figure out what it is that I do that I can offer people and turn into a career. Now the funny thing is my website by polar excellence dot com.
The subtitle, the I’m blanking on terms. But the thing I make clear to people is I help high functioning bipolar people, find and use the positive aspects of bipolar molar to build their passion projects.
Now that’s all well and good. But whatever you’re creating now I’m I’m talking to you guys out there that are following along with me to figure out how to build your thing.
What I recently had made clear to me was people buy transformations, outcomes, solutions and feelings.
Now I’ve been able to offer all 4 of those things to people in in various combinations. But the thing out of those 4 out of those 4 items, the thing that I appear to impact people with the most is how I make them feel.
That couldn’t be trying to turn that into something concrete you’re trying to spin solidity out of the abstract.
It’s it’s it’s been damn near impossible for me. I know what happens when people work with me. I’ve helped people build a lot of different things.
Non profits, write books, make music, create websites, I’ve done marketing for for gyms primarily. Real estate companies. I felt people start small companies of all kinds of of types. But none of that is actually what I I do.
It’s how they feel while they’re working with me. I’ve no of for years and I could never pin down what the fuck to call that in a way that when people go online and do a Google search, I’m the answer.
And this is something this isn’t this is a thing you have to solve for yourself and your whether you have a business or not, Whatever it is you’re creating. You want people to find out about it.
Right? Everything’s a business in that respect. Everyone’s on Google looking for an answer. What problem are you the answer to? Well, after a recent event with an with a client, it’d be it became clear to me like never before.
I believe in people when no 1 else will. Now does that does that mean I I couldn’t be like more naive and I believe everything I touch will turn to gold for myself and everybody connected to it?
No. I guess the clearer thing to say is I believe in the potential. The potential for success. I also believe that without attempting to reach success. There is no success.
You’re probably not gonna reach it on your first attempt or maybe on maybe the many attempts that come after, but you’re gonna learn from it and eventually you will nail it. And I wanna be a part of that as much as possible with you.
When I had a client who is part of my day job Other people were trying to dissuade him from the 1 thing that mattered to him most because Our duty there is to get people up and running and firmly on their feet and self reliant.
We empower people. But the empowerment normally comes in the form of what everybody that does anything to the system.
What the system tells you you should do in order to be a good citizen and and make something of yourself in this world. And that usually involves a job. It usually involves college of some sort, pursuing a degree.
And then becoming something that’s a known entity, a title that everyone understands, and I’m not any of that. That’s never worked for me. I fucking hate every bit of trying to do things that way, and I’ve tried mightily.
I realize I am something other. I am something else. I am something that’s hard to describe to people and I’m cool with it. And it’s taken me years to bring it to the point that it’s reached now that you’re listening to me.
But when I was started working with this guy, everybody was trying to aim him towards a more realistic quote unquote realistic career path. He wants to make music. He just wants to make music and it is it’s critical to him.
It it it’s important to his spirit as he refers to it. So I said, fine. Let’s look into that because I know that if you get once you get that itch, if you don’t scratch it, you’re miserable.
Or you’re just gonna go crazy, persecuting yourself as your your as the bulk of your life doesn’t work out right and that thing is never getting addressed.
I’ve learned the hard way that you do have to have a a life that is stable in the way that most people recognize stability.
You do. You gotta eat. You gotta pay bills. You gotta take care of all responsibilities and that usually means a job and that’s that’s fine. That’s normal.
But when something else is talking to you and it it it wants you to deal with it and address it and and it’s your heart. You’re gonna be sick in some fashion if you don’t at least look into it. So I agreed to help this person period.
I really didn’t care. I just I got really interested in what what he found interesting. And I wanted to help him launch this thing. Now after the initial excitement faded, just, you know, within that couple of meetings.
Still exciting as hell, but being responsible for what it is, I do. I had to make sure he was handling thing else in his life responsibly and he was.
He’s not shirking work responsibilities. He’s not cutting work hours. He’s actually doing overtime. He’s saving money to lay into this dream while meeting all his other economic needs.
He’s paying all his bills. He’s doing everything responsibly, and he has the energy and the will and the desire and the ability to also fit in the creation of this dream project.
And I told him that. I said, you’re you got this. It’s gonna more than likely take longer than you’d like for it to.
You you’re gonna have a number of fights your hand because I’m about to expose you to all kinds of areas of life that have to do with creating a dream and sharing with the world and monetizing it that are gonna be brand new to you.
I knew that much just from talking to them. And that’s a lot of people. There’s a lot to know about marketing and psychology and the Internet and sales and platforms and real life versus online life.
There’s just a lot of shit to know. There’s a lot of ways to go. Nothing’s wrong. It all works if it suits you. It’s just a matter of figuring out what parts resonate with you the most and a number of other other factors.
But I realized this guy was handling his business. He wasn’t harming anything in the pursuit of his dream. And I decided to help him make a run at it.
We got his LinkedIn page built, got a nice basic LinkedIn page set up for him. And we have a lot more planned that I gave I gave him homework and there’s things I’m I have planned to do for him.
He doesn’t even know about yet, but I’m taking it slowly so he doesn’t get overwhelmed, and I am metering his his expectations.
He’s not a young person. But the Internet’s new to him and he he there’s things he’s hoping will happen that simply will not.
But he’s he’s responding well, and he’s gonna do whatever I suggest. And then when we get feedback we’ll figure out what we got a tweak as we go. I don’t know if he’ll make it. I don’t know anything.
I just know it’s disgusting not to try. For me and him. Now I’m in it. Now I wanna see this thing go. Again, I don’t know if he’ll pull it off. I don’t know what it’ll become. But it’s very exciting watching it become whatever.
It it will. It’s the process is what wakes wakes me up with excitement The process is just 1 of the coolest things helping somebody create something out of nothing and then drive it with passion.
And temperate with rational thinking. He said something to me, After a handful of meetings, he said it with such passion and such feeling, and the look on in his face in in his eyes, he’s like, this isn’t gonna happen without you.
That has been said to me, many dozens of times.
Usually, not in this case, but usually In the past, I’ve overextended myself said yes to too much and no to not enough, and I’ve overextended myself and burned myself alive trying to help someone else build their dream.
When I finally would crash and burn or or about to crash and burn, I’d have to extract myself. I’d have to quit. I’d have to walk away. And that’s usually when the words will come out.
We can’t do this without you. It’s not gonna happen without you and they were right. Usually because I was doing the bulk of all the things that mattered most while they did the very specific things or whatever the dream was.
So I’ve spoken about this sort of approach elsewhere I don’t want to carry on much longer about it but You can’t build someone’s dream for them and live it for them.
You can guide them and that’s what I’m here to do with any of you. I don’t wanna build the parts. I know how to build a lot of parts, but honestly with the right budget, I wouldn’t hire me to build them.
I have There’s things I’ve built. There’s an extensive machine I’ve built online to drive bipolar excellence dot com. And I’m good at it. I’m pretty good at it compared to somebody and it was nothing.
But again, I can’t wait to have other people take the running of all of this out of my hands so that I can focus on just talking to you guys, be it through this recording or in real life.
So this guy, he’s like this isn’t gonna happen without you. We’re at the very beginning. And that was a pivotal realization for me.
I finally heard what I wanted to hear. I wasn’t seeking that. I wasn’t looking to hear that, but It’s a nice thing to hear. It’s a nice thing to know people have that much faith in you even if the reason is tricky.
I haven’t invested anything with this guy that’s that’s overly much. It’s it’s all acceptable. It’s minimal really on my part. It’s match to him. It’s it’s nothing to me.
And it fits into what I’m doing and I am getting paid in my day. But to see the look on his face and hear in his voice, that need to have me connected to the building, the creation, the delivery of his dream into sharing it with others.
In the process of helping him learn what he’s truly capable of that he doesn’t even know yet because I’ve hinted at things because I see things in people when I talked to them once I get to know them better.
I they say things. I pick up on keywords. I’m familiar with certain life circumstances.
I get to I get to understand what they already have access to. Frequently people don’t really understand clearly what it is they they they did with the potential. They don’t get what they already have waiting to help them.
It’s right in their everyday life half the time, but but it’s a it’s a matter of perspective. They don’t understand what’s staring them right in the face that can help them make their dreams come true.
I love helping them make those connections. Peeling away the blinds, reformatting the common into the awesome that it actually is, and it usually perspective shift.
So in line with what I do because this was another key change in perspective, I I had to make and didn’t know it until another coach pointed it out to me, very, very minor shift.
I used to just try to help people fight bipolar which wore me out, got to nowhere, led nowhere, made me very little money and put me a great legal risk. And I didn’t even really enjoy it.
I was glad to do it. I was glad to be of help. I was glad to bring hope into people’s worlds. Never doubt that. I still want that. But doing it that way was not what I’m built to do. I’m not even I’m not even legally certified to do.
And it took me some time backing up another step when I became a life coach and the difference between therapy and coaching was made clear to me That was worth the 4 grand I invested in that coach package that coaching package alone to get certified when I learned a difference to therapy and coaching.
I realize I’m a coach and I’m a therapist. I have therapist abilities and insights and knowledge, but it’s that it’s not me. Not at all. So I help those that are not completely and utterly mired in the illness of bipolar.
I help those that have already found stability in whatever way that is, whether it’s without drugs like I did or with a certain amount of drugs or some kind of therapy or I don’t care.
Acupuncture, meditation, chiropractic like I do, there’s a hundred different versions of that.
I don’t care. If you’re bipolar prone, If you’re flavored by bipolar, in some days it’s a little louder than other days. Some days it’s a little murkier than other days.
But generally speaking, you’ve got your shit in order and you you you still have the ability to move forward even in the face of these bipolar based troubles. That’s who I’m looking to work with.
I believe in you I believe in the power of bipolar people to be creative and have insights that non non bipolar people don’t I find a lot of bipolar people before they crashed and burned have had really wild interesting lives.
They’re like me. They don’t see things like anybody else prior during or after their bipolar battles. We’re just something different that I find utterly delicious and exciting and I like working with. And I believe in you people.
I believe my life’s proven it to me in so many ways that we bipolar prone people are sitting on knowledge and wisdom in experiences and insights and and alternative perspectives that can help change the world.
You can start a business You can do something to help your neighborhood. You can do something to help your family. You can do art. You can make music.
You can design things that make life better. You can invent things nobody’s ever thought of. I know a few people that have done that. Whatever is is up with you, you’re here to help other people, and you have the ability to do so.
And more importantly you want to. You can be bipolar and not wanna do any of these things. But for the kinds of folks I’m talking about, we can’t help but try to build something.
We can’t help but dig and research and ask questions and ponder and meditate and try to find out what it’s all about. Why did this happen to us? What’s it mean?
There’s parts of it that were clearly heavy duty positives. Why? And what do I do with them? There’s a lot of us that have come out of the backside of bipolar with insights that would have never happened without the illness.
As bad as it could have been, it brought goodness to our awareness. And I believe you can turn that into something that will be of great benefit to everyone else and bring you a lot of joy and fulfillment in the process.
It ain’t gonna be easy. For most of you, it isn’t gonna happen as fast as you want. And for a lot of you, it’s not even gonna be ultimately when it pops. It’s not even gonna be what we start out working together on.
Some of you that are more seasoned and have created a lot of things know what I’m talking about. You gotta start somewhere. You gotta have a goal. And it may morph. It more and likely will morph by the time you get to the end.
Or it’ll be what you wanted, but you won’t get to deliver it in a way you first envisioned It might not help the people you first thought it would, but it’s gonna help a different batch of people.
Whatever. You win. You’re getting to to use your art, your magic, you’re getting to let your spirits soar, and you’re doing a good a good thing for people around you.
At a time, when people need it most. Unless you’re blind and deaf and living under a rock, you can’t help but notice that everything in the world globally is breaking down.
Nothing works as it should. Everything’s in a state of flux Everything’s about to change. There’s chaos everywhere.
The world is in a very unstable mode right now, and that is freaking awesome. Because more people out of desperation or just just know, a lesser intense amount of need are looking for answers that have never been put forth before.
Guess who’s providing those answers. You and me. I’m gonna leave off on this. For the most part, I don’t build anything.
You guys do. I’m here to motivate and inspire and support as you pull it off. And I help build you. I build people, and I build people’s dreams through them. I’m the man behind the throne and I absolutely love it.
What might I build with you. Please go to bipolar excellence dot com and sign up for my news list so we can talk some more and you get to know me more to find out if I’m even your guy.
I have courses on bipolar excellence dot com where you can figure out you can try fighting bipolar the way I did, maybe it worked.
Maybe it doesn’t. I I can’t promise, but I can I can at least share how I did it? I got a course that explains all the things I used to run them machine that is bipolar excellence, not to mention the machine that is Kenny.
And I have a course on there about what do once you realize this thing is more than it appears to to have been on the surface.
If you want me living with you in some respect, Click on work with Ken and we will partner up assuming we fit.
And together we’re gonna make your vision come true. Have a great rest of your holiday. Enjoy time with your friends. I hope you’re doing well out there. And III can’t wait to see what we might make together. Take care, guys.