EPI-69: UFOs and Family Time
Christian and I did our best with our impression of “The Thing With Two Heads“, a classic 1972 schlock horror film.
We were trapped inside the alien abduction teleporter at the Pine Bush UFO Museum in Pine Bush, NY.
Just so you’re clear.
It was a much needed, long time coming, family day for my wife, son and I.
But first, just so you understand the importance of the abduction thing:
Building a project such as mine means sacrificing things like family time and a whole lot of other things, across years.
Nothing worth having comes easy.
I didn’t discuss this in the episode but “work/life balance” means one thing in the beginning and something else entirely as you near the next level.
You don’t want to perpetually remain in this sacrifice mode. You’re losing more than you gain if you do.
My goal is to create a life where I can’t tell if I’m playing or working.
THAT is my definition of “work/life balance”.
Someone who’s committed to living the same way was waiting for me where the abduction pic took place.
And we had a great talk after the tour that led to this:
The Pine Bush UFO Museum owner, Lance Hallowell has tentatively agreed to be on the podcast soon!
He intrigued the hell out of me!
He’s going to bring a nice “out of left field” touch to the podcast and site.
I have many thoughts on why I want to interview him. But I’ll hold off until we actually do it.
Lance is someone who’s chased down a truly unique dream, with substantial hurdles the likes of which, most of us never even have to consider.
And he’s a showman.
It’s gonna be a fun talk.
And people like him are a huge part of why I created Bipolar Excellence!
Just click the “READ MORE” text below for the transcript!
Bipolar has hidden within its strengths. I’m gonna show you what I mean and how they’ve up in my life so you can do the same. Hey, this is Ken and you’re listening to episode 69 UFOs and family time.
I wasn’t sure how far how much I wanted to say about what took place this weekend. It was very cool. But I ended up at the Pine Bush UFO Museum in Upstate, New York.
I have a friend who works with me at my day job who’s getting she’s worked there for I don’t know how long and she’s getting ready to quit that job to put a little little hair into her life.
She’s been working 7 days a week for quite some time and She wanted my family to see her, come see the museum and see her while she was still an employee.
She’s really cool. How you doing, Anna? And the museum was a trip. And and the guy Lance Hollowell, who gave the tour to museum owner.
He was a trip. Lance has at least agreed tentatively to be a guest on the show. He’s interested. I have his number. There’s a huge UFO event coming up, then Pinebush here just in a couple of weeks.
In June 20 23, it’s gonna be a thing like they do out at, what do you call it, Roswell. People will come up dressed as aliens and all kinds stuff and I think it spreads out through the town.
It looks pretty cool. I’m gonna try and go catch that event as well. I’m not at a an enthusiast in a direct sense, but it’s an interesting topic. I’ve watched a lot of videos. I’ve watched a lot of documentaries.
I caught the what do you call it? When Bob Lazar, I think his name was his was on Joe Hogan. That was pretty fascinating. And I remember I remember a couple years back that there was some guy that was writing a book about Bob Lazar.
That Joe Hogan interviewed, and that was an incredible talk as well. I’m not saying anything either way. I am willing to stay going on now going on out in the world that we can’t we can’t understand.
We can’t make sense of. And I don’t think it’s good to just dismiss things out of hand. But this episode you know, stay loose. Keep your mind open.
This episode is more about as cool as that was. I got a chance to spend some time with my family. In this case, it was my son and my wife. We’ve all we all work. We work different shifts. Everybody’s embedded at a different time.
Everybody’s awake at a different time. We’re all pushing hard to push my dream forward, and my son does pretty cool stuff all all on his own. And it’s been a joy to watch him just become a young man.
He’s he’s 21 now. He hate that I’m even saying these words, but He’s a good kid. I could carry on quite a bit about him because he’s also a cool person. That had been my 1 requirement of him since he was in the womb.
I used to scream into my wife’s belly, you better come out interesting. And damn, Danny, exactly what he did. I got fortunate. I worked at it. I worked at it. I shaped him, obviously.
But I let my kid become whatever he wanted, and put my most important principles in them which which was to be to be a great conversationalist, to be kind to people, to to work hard intelligently to always grow and to 1 day build something that is yours where you don’t answer to anybody.
You direct your own destiny because you’re in charge of all of it. I’ve been teaching him all that stuff which is all, you know, things that I talk about on this show to you guys.
And he so far has embodied all of them, and I know he’s quietly working on that last thing. I I don’t know what he’s going to come 1 day as an owner.
I don’t know what he’ll create, but he blows my mind with his capabilities, his maturity, his wisdom beyond years. And he’s also a young guy and he screws around me in that fashion, and I just have a really good time talking with him.
I know a lot of parents don’t don’t always get that They don’t always get that with their kids and I feel bad for them.
My kid, I I just like hearing what he has to say as a person and he can make me laugh. For that matter, I do the same to my mom, and she has COPD, and I have to be careful because I’ll get her laughing so hard.
She’s my best audience. And we’re we’re adults now. I’m I’m almost 55. She’s, I think, 75. So we’re free to curse and talk about sex and all kinds of things now.
We we have some pretty good laugh fest together. So there you go, more family. The reason I’m bringing this up is I’ve been working so hard on all of this because I have to.
I it’s it’s the only way I can completely free my wife and I from employment, my kid’s on his own doing whatever he wants, and that’s great. But I want to free us. I am I am freeing us from the yoke of being waged slaves.
I’ve I’ve loathed it my entire working life since, like, probably 11 And I although I’ve learned valuable lessons and you gotta work until you don’t have to, I’ve hated it with a passion my entire adult life, it’s for many reasons, but basically I feel like a slave.
I feel trapped. There’s never enough money.
There’s there’s limitations. Across the board, just limitations and lack. Now that has been turning around for me because everything I teach on this show, I’ve been doing and the situation is improving rapidly.
And I realized a couple of years ago that that was gonna be the case. And I stopped worrying about it even though I was frustrated that the tangible results weren’t appearing just yet.
But I learned enough about everything I share that I my confidence came way up my clarity came way up. My certainty that I was on the right path has has cemented. And I know what I’m doing and why and how it’s gonna go.
And I have I am about to turn on the the greatest part of the marketing machine that will bring more of the people to me that I need to come my way so I can both build what I want.
And help them build what they want because I also want to live vicariously through their projects, meaning your projects.
It thrills me to no end to be behind the scenes as somebody takes something pro that means the world to them and they’ve overcome all kinds of hurdles and self doubt and and lack and through ingenuity and grit and a network of good people and on and on they they make their baby become something that the world 1 day finds out about.
That is the that’s my most favorite story to tell. My own and and those the stories of those who have helped do the same. The it’s it’s a rather selfish part of why I built bipolar excellence dot com.
I I need need to be in the lives of people living as such. Another cool thing happened, I was talking to another young guy, and in this case, like, probably like 30.
And I’m I’m not gonna get in all the details. Another co worker who really caught my interest, and I’ve been trying to to get into an in-depth conversation with him.
And I found a way to do it because we’re all busy. We just we pass, you know, we pass and keep pass each other in the hallways and keep running because we’re very busy helping helping these people that need us badly.
And I finally got a chance to talk to him. We were good, but I just couldn’t get any in-depth talk because Well now I’m repeating myself.
So I finally got a chance to talk to him and I wanna say too much about what God said, but 1 cool thing was I told him, this is the best job I’ve ever had in my life for every reason possible.
Hands down and I hate coming to it every single fucking day and he yells at me. Thank you. We love what we do, but it’s not the thing we love most, and it doesn’t pay what we need. That’s simple. We’re good at it. He’s good at it.
I’m good at it. And I’m just glad I crossed paths with him, and we got talking about some more some more serious issues and aligned with in alignment with what this show is about, what my life is about, We didn’t make any plans.
He just helped me he just helped me he helped confirm confirm some things I already knew about my self and 1 of which and this is very critical critically important to me, and it will be to some some of you out there.
I a quick backstory, some of you, if if you’re listening along, you’ve heard about the young man I helped turned into a professional documentary filmmaker.
That is a really fascinating story how that came to being at work even better than I realized somebody had to tell me years later just how well that plan worked.
I didn’t know. I was just glad the kid was making it. And we we’ve been friends for, I don’t know now. I don’t know, 15 years, something like that.
And I was just really happy for him and we’ve crossed paths a few times since, but other than that not not much. Well, because he was in the movies, I realized some time ago, I I love movies more deeply than I even knew.
Meaning, 1 1 of the 1 of the things that made me realize it was I started falling in love with reading the credits at the end of the movie.
I was blown away when it really dawned on me how many people it takes to bring you like a 2 hour blockbuster or even an hour and 20 minute film. It’s it’s sometimes thousands of people and it’s tens and tens of thousands of man hours.
And the project itself could have taken many years to complete from start to finish. Multiple companies are involved. It’s it’s things are global. It’s it’s impressive.
When we sit and blow through movies like pringles potato chips on Netflix or Amazon or HBO, you you really have no concept of what just got handed to you. I mean, in 1 way you shouldn’t, you just wanna watch the movie and whatnot.
Only us only us what do they call us? Video files or something that would really get into this like I’m saying. But for any of you out there building something, you know, it takes a lot of effort, it takes a lot of money sometimes.
And it takes a lot of help, takes a lot of people, takes a lot of planning, takes a lot of patience, and nothing sows up that reality quite quite as well as reading the credits at the end of a movie.
So 1 day it dawned on me. I would really like to know exactly what the hell those credits mean. There’s some crazy terms in there. And I wanted to know officially how a movie got made.
I used to be part of a media facility where I got to see commercials being made. Music videos being made and I was I was privy to various parts of the process but never an entire movie.
I even had a producer friend who was crazy. He man he was nuts. He was fun. Holy shit was he fun. This guy just made small movies for a living, and that was it. And I was like, how the fuck do you get to wear it at your life?
I didn’t realize how that pertains to what I’m saying until just now. So I actually put on a mini film festival with that guy. He co hosted it with me and we showed some of the films he’d produced and some other things that came on.
Came out at that time and and we had a we had a theater full of people and it was a blast. I’d never done something like that before or since. It was just fun.
And So I bought a book that that described, defined, all the things that are in a movie, the the the titles, how the creation of a movie takes place, what the day sheet looks like, what the dailies are, you know, the business of making a movie, not just the artistic side, not even just the technical side, but the business of it and the administrative side of it.
And then I got excited. It was so many things to pick from.
And at that time that I bought that book, which was, I don’t know, I don’t know, 6 years ago, something like that. I was hoping to find my my next career path in the movies. I knew I didn’t wanna act. I’m funny in the right situation.
I’ll give you a heart attack with laughter. But I’m situational. I’m not a stand up comic. I didn’t wanna do that anyway. And so here I am looking through this book about things you can be in a movie. I didn’t wanna be the crew.
I didn’t wanna build anything and I didn’t wanna run cable. I’d I’d done that on some of the video things I’d been part of running cable and unpacking and packing crew or, you know, you’re like a roadie in that respect.
Interesting and fun, but not, you know, not a career that I wanted to develop.
And I read the whole book and by the time it was done, I had gotten almost completely finished with it and there was nothing in there that I wanted to do forever or the things that were close to what I might wanna do, they were just regular jobs and weren’t gonna pay me what I to live the life I wanted, and I started getting depressed before I even finished the book because I felt so strongly about being part of a movie.
Then came the section on what a producer does. Now I don’t remember the details, but it became clear that there are being a producer can mean many things.
You get the plan together, you get the people together, you find the funding, you can help motivate the crew or, you know, you’re you’re you’re kind of swimming between it all, keeping the thing going.
And and you you might have just 1 part to play. You might have many. You either find the money or you have the money in which in which case you are, like, completely in charge, really, it’s your money. That really spoke to me.
All of that. This brings us back around to my talk to my young friend at my job. And when I told him I said he’s into music but he also used to help make student films in college if I under if if I understand him.
And he knew a lot about making movies as well, and he wanted to get back to that even though music, I believe, is his true passion. And I told him just just the basic.
I wanna be a producer and he blew up. He’s like, yes, fuck, gosh. That is exactly what you are, and he named some famous producer names from the music world that I’m familiar with only because they’re famous.
I’m I’m I’m not that deep into music in in that way. When I am into the stories of people who have done interesting things like some of the producers he mentioned, and he’s rattled out all these names.
He’s like, you’re exactly like them. You’re that kind of a person. It’s what you do with this job, just just just floating around in your day.
He’s like, holy shit. Yes. You’re a producer. I was like fuck. Alright? That’s the kind of confirmation a guy wants to hear about when he’s pitching his his life slash career plan.
I knew it anyway, but it was really cool to hear this guy explode over the fact that that’s what I was pretty sure I need to be.
So there’s this podcast. There’s bipolar excellence dot com. There’s courses I sell. On on the on the website there’s coaching I offer. These things will stay in place because you need multiple streams of income.
That’s something I’ve never talked about on this show. You don’t want all your eggs in 1 basket. You wanna you want a few different things cooking along in case 1 of them takes a hit unexpectedly.
You still got 2 or 3 motor and along in the back and while you repair the 1 it just blew up or or maybe you gotta build something completely new for whatever reason. You want multiple streams of income.
So everything I have running now is going to stay running or it will run I have some version of it running, but ultimately what I’m looking to to become is a producer where And and I would I would imagine at this point it it can fit into so many different careers, but movies really do sing to my soul.
Speak to my soul, make my soul sing. There you go. And I don’t know what this is gonna look like. But I know I’m gonna make it happen.
And I feel even I feel even more more confident it can happen that it can happen because when you look at the credits, my god. There’s so many producers producers, executive producers, co executive assistant.
They just goes on and on and on. There are so many ways you can take part in a project. And as I’ve been saying, the biggest thing that drives me through all of this is being part of a project.
So I don’t know how big I can take that. I know I wanna take it as big as I can. If I’m enjoying myself, I will just continue if if there’s a limit that I don’t wanna cross because it cuts in how I wanna live my life.
We’ll deal with that when it comes, but I want in at that level and that’s where that’s what everything I’m doing with you guys and on the website, that’s what’s leading to.
Even these things are just stepping stones to something something larger.
If you’re out there trying to put a dream together and you haven’t even gotten to point of of creating what I’ve created, take heart because because now with AI and in other technology that was already happening on the Internet, it just keeps evolving so fast.
You already can make things like what I’ve made this this this digital empire of mine.
You can make them easier than I made At this point, I I run everything on WordPress, and WordPress works with I don’t even know blocks and shit where you can just, like, pick and and click and a thing happens, and I couldn’t get used to it and it frustrated the shit out of me because I got like 15 years of of using WordPress the way it was initially designed.
And thank God they made a plug in that allows you to keep your your website in the background running in the old fashioned way.
I’m not even bothering to learn the new way. The the other 2 websites I run which is family network chiropractic dot com. And what do we call that?
Peace work outreach dot com. Those are for 2 dear friends of mine and I run their stuff on website the same exact way because I told him I will take care of you guys until Well, period. I’ll take care of you guys period.
No matter what happens, your sites are gonna running. If you don’t need them 1 day, great. It’s over. But as long as you need them, I’ll keep them running. And I help them in in different ways with that.
But I’m not going to build any more websites and if I do it’s gonna be with the new technology like I used with a with another a client actually where we fed in some keywords and hit a button and AI crapped out on 1 page website in 30 seconds while we watched.
Then I spent the next 20 minutes or 30 minutes tweaking it and it basically was a 1 sheeter that had everything he needed on it to do business.
Like that. Things change, things improve, you don’t know how to you don’t need to know all the stuff I’ve been forced to learn.
And if you’re into the coding and the tech, you can still take it to the level I’ve taken it where you’ll have granular control over absolutely everything.
A piece of me needed to know I can have granular control. So that I can rest at night. Having things just the way I want them. A little bit of a perfectionism there but it is what it is.
So having said all that I’ve said, this has been my life and my mind for many years and and finding ways to just spend time with the family has always been hard and we usually couldn’t even afford it.
If we did spend time together, that just meant a movie at home. That’s all we had.
Or we might go out for a meal because we had a lot of lean years. So let that give you heart as well. Things have gotten remarkably better for me in that area and in all areas of my life, everything I’m trying to build and building.
Everything I am building There’s activity happening the lights of which I only used to dream about. It’s happening before my eyes. You’re hearing some of it. That’s not easy to even share all of it, but I’ll find ways to do it as I go.
And Just hang in there and keep going, guys. Don’t give up because if you give up, you give up. The only common denominator between all successful people is they kept going. They never quit.
You don’t have a choice. What are you gonna do? Go back to a life of quiet desperation. You can’t. If you’re listening to me, there’s already a piece of you. I’m sure that can’t accept that. You’re you’re gonna at least die trying.
And that in itself is even admirable because at least at least your you’re not living in ignorance and and you haven’t killed your spirit by giving up because I believe although it would be much better to finally succeed Even if you just keep trying, it means something.
Even if it doesn’t bring you happiness, it means something to somebody who’s watching It’s a form of motivation for people around you.
You never know who cares who who you never know who you care about, who’s watching you and just so proud that you keep going.
It could easily go the other way I know. And I wonder why you don’t just give up on a thing that doesn’t work. But then that’s where you find someone like me or the people the other coaches I talk about.
There is such a thing as trying too hard on something for too long when you shoulda you shoulda pivoted somewhere. That is a tricky dance to figure out when that moment hits. I’ve spoken about it in 1 of these episodes before.
It is very frustrating. But you’ll know when you know, you’ll see something somewhere as long as you as long as you maintain an open state of mind then try to stay loose, not too rigid in your views.
And when you hear something that sort of bumps into like maybe I need to change, you’ll know it when you hear it and that is That is 1 of the shittiest pieces of of advice that is absolutely correct, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
You’re gonna know what you need to know whenever it hits, And in some cases, it’s gonna be way longer than you would like for it to be because that’s what it takes for you to grow into the person to make use of the notification when it finally does arrive.
It takes how long it takes however long. Just don’t quit Alright, guys. Go to bipolar excellence dot com. Sign up for my newsletter. Get that free wellness course while that’s still a thing.
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That’s a thing in business that you do. As a way of rewarding those that take, you know, that little bit of extra step with you.
And I’m really looking forward to seeing what I’ll build to meet that need and find the people that really resonate with me because that’s the other reason you do it.
You’re looking for the people that exactly resonate with you so that you can 1 day work together and have a good time and make a pile of cash doing so.
You sometimes can become lifelong friends if if nothing else Everything is just better and the way you always wished it could have been.
That’s all that everything I’m doing is built to do. I will teach you how to do the same. Alright, guys. Be well.