EPI 9: Every Time I Try To Change, Self Doubt/Old Training Stops Me
EPI 9: Bipolar: Every Time I Try To Change, Self Doubt/Old Training Stops Me
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Welcome to the Bipolar Excellence Podcast: Episode Nine: Every Time I Try To Change Self-doubt / Old Training Stops Me.
All right, Ken, here. This is a big one. This is… I’m not as embroiled with this problem as I was many years ago. But it does, it does raise its ugly head every now and then. Change is hard. Human beings crave homeostasis. We want everything to stay the same. We don’t want valleys. We don’t want peaks.
When you’re trying to change, particularly some sort of paradigm shift level of change, where something you’re trying to do to either, either improve yourself or to build something big, you’re going to run into your old training. That’s not going to allow you to move forward.
Self doubt’s a big one because even bazillionaires have self-doubt.
I’m not entirely sure if this relates, but I’ll, I’ll make it quick, just in case I’m wrong. I watched a high-level coach, on video, coach another lady who was incredibly, incredibly, she was a high achiever. She’d succeeded at things on a level most of us will never see. She was the CEO and creator of a slew of businesses, head of many things.
In charge of millions and hundreds of millions of dollars at different times in her career. Whatever she touched, turned to gold. People fought to get her time and attention. And here she was on this thing saying to this coach, I have no idea what to put on my homepage of my website. I have no idea what to tell the world, it is, I do. I don’t know how to explain it.
She’s got this track record that clearly showed what she’d achieved and yet she didn’t know what to tell anybody about herself. That’s a form of self doubt and it cracks me up because I built many websites to represent what it is I do to the world, do for the world.
And I, I have reworked the homepage of every one of those sites, hundreds of times, including the site that you might be listening to this on now, bipolarexcellence.com. That homepage is not the first one that I wrote. It’s not the first version. It’s gone through more iterations than I can count. So that is, that is devolving into a separate topic, but I’m all, you know, the self doubt and what was like, geez.
I dunno when I say that, is that going to be received well? Is that, do I really do that? What if somebody asks me this cause they think I meant that off of whatever I said over here. Cause it could mean that. Blah, blah, blah, blah. Just keep moving for one. When you’re trying to change. Just keep moving.
Your old training when okay.
Your brain is a thing of efficiency. When you’re trying to do something, anything, if it’s something that you do over and over repeatedly, your brain reads that. And it stops trying to throw all of itself at that problem. And it sets up a neural pathway where it figures out the exact neurons necessary, with whatever memories connected, to make that task happen.
It trims out all the rest and it bolsters the connection between the remaining neurons. It’s hammered into you physically, literally, biologically to do whatever that thing is. Think driving. When you first learned how to drive, you had to remember how hard to push the gas, when to hit the brake, how to shift if you’re old enough to have remember stick shift.
On and on and on. Your distances. It was terrifying. And it was so much, to remember. Now you drive home, you don’t even remember the drive. If you’re a passenger for some reason, on, on, on like, say your way to work, your car breaks down and somebody else has to bring you to work. You’re seeing houses and businesses and cool shit. You never even knew existed.
You’ve driven by them hundreds of times, if not thousands. Never saw them before. Why is that? Your brain doesn’t need to track all that shit to drive the car down the road. It doesn’t need to track every motion involved in driving itself because your brain does that on automatic through that neural pathway.
That’s the thing you’re fighting when you want to do something new. You literally have to unwire a wire in your head and make new connections. That is not easy to do. I’m going to give you a tip right off the bat that’ll help with that.
There’s a company called Centerpointe with an E on the end. They make a tool called Holosync. It’s a form of meditation that is science-based. You hear you put on your headphones. You listen to these sounds. You hear a frequency of a sound in one ear and a different frequency in the other ear.
Your brain makes the difference of the two 10 on, in one ear, six in the other, your brain comes out with the difference of four Hertz. It’s it in reference to Hertz and vibrates at four Hertz, as an example.
And that’s just one tiny thing that’s going on. And in that your brain rewires itself and learns to run better and puts you in a state of mind at all times, that when you need to make a change, you can do so more easily.
Go to Centerpointe, with an E on the end, Centerpointe.com, and start with them. If you want to change your old training.
On a separate but related note, this was something as a former alcoholic and addict, I hate referring to myself, but it gives context to what I’m saying. I don’t view myself as such. I did those things. I don’t do them anymore. And it’s been for many, many years now.
However, when someone goes to AA, in particular, these 12 step groups, they, they, there there’s a, there’s a recidivism, there’s a failure rate that is very high, in part, because you’re trying to undo this old training, but you’re just trying to do it through willpower and constant talk with peers.
It can be done, people do it, but the bulk of people can not. There’s other things involved. That’s just one aspect of why I’m not happy with these 12 step programs. If you like them more power to you, but. You’re trying to undo something that they don’t even address. And then when you fail, they have a reason for why you failed that meet that falls within the parameters of how their program works.
That’s not even saying they’re wrong, but they’re overlooking stuff like that. There’s other areas involved with your body and mind that I could go into just to explain why this old training is so hard to beat and is not addressed in many of the programs any of us go to for any reason to try to make life better.
I’ve got stuff to say about all of that. And I do so over at bipolarexcellence.com. Working with me, we can figure out what it is that you need the most out of all the tools I have stuffed in my head and written down on my site and in my courses, and we’ll figure out which one you need and get the ball rolling.
Having said all that, when you know you need to change, keep going anyway. You’re going to embarrass yourself. You’re going to screw up. You’re going to make even worse mistakes than the ones you made that got you into the jam you’re in that you’re trying to change out of maybe. And you’re, it’s gonna suck.
It’s gonna suck major loads of ass. And if you give up, nothing will change. So you have no choice, but to keep going and try to change for the better. Then find somebody to help you pinpoint the areas that you need the most change in and find unique and interesting ways of pulling it off.
Me, someone else, I don’t care. If you reach out to me and I’m not the thing, I’ll do my best to find something that better suits you because I just, I get a kick out of helping people, particularly in the areas of addiction and bipolar, because I don’t ever want to return to the Hells I lived in over those two things.
And if I can help you get out of it, I’ll do so. All right guys, there’s a pleasant, happy note to end on. I will see you in the next episode.