Step Five: Houseclean
Unacceptable Stressors Must Be Removed
This one is rather simple but may involve some very hard work. Much of the following may not apply to you but I’m throwing it all out there in case it does.
It goes like this:
This can be a close friend, whom you love dearly
But when you take a step back and look at the overall picture, you see that whenever this person is around you suffer in some fashion, large or small.
This is a quite common stressor and involves serious honesty with oneself.
Some friends mean well but they are simply dragging us down with their problems. If they’re not taking the right steps to fix those problems, and this has been the pattern for a very long time, you are free to cut them loose and you should cut them loose.
You must examine why you’re even hanging on to such a friend. None of this makes you or the friend a bad person but facts are facts. If you are good and bipolar, you must take steps to protect and heal yourself. Cut free anyone who ought to be cut free.
This is a tricky move and you need to be sure you’re choosing the right path.
While under massive stress, your judgment is not always to be trusted. So fix the thing that helps you decide which way to go.
Holosync will instill in you the ability to make these choices wisely. Good stuff that Holosync.
Dust off that resume
This isn’t always possible but if you’re still functioning in the work world, maybe you need a different job.
You may be locked in one place out of complacency and comfort. A change may be just what the doctor ordered.
But start safely by first locating all the relevant job boards that pertain to your skills and desires, as well as your physical location.
Most of them have an auto alert ability that feeds you new job postings as they arrive. This saves you the time of constantly revisiting every single board, multiple times a day.
Teach yourself what’s out there that applies to you. Or see what new thing is available that you’d like to try, and make a go at finding peace and happiness in a position different from all the ones before it.
Maybe do some side work or freelance work in your non-work hours to find out if you have what it takes to reinvent yourself without giving up the security you already have on your current job.
Never make a move or quit your job until you have the next one lined up!
Maybe you need a new home or apartment
Will everyone be able to take this step if that’s the case? No. But if you can and it would help to be in a new area, then go!
The key is to remain “objective”.
Look at your living arrangement without emotion.
Will a new place get you away from shitty neighbors, loud traffic, multiple malfunctioning building systems, a dangerous neighborhood, or anything else that you can pinpoint that is outside of you? If so, move.
If it just seems as though you’re never happy no matter where you go, then don’t add the stress of moving on top of your already overburdened nervous system.
Stay right where you are and do the work within It Takes Guts To Live Well.
You can pick your neighbors
But you’re sometimes stuck with family.
If there are family members who run you raw, you can’t really or don’t want to boot them.
So sit them down for a heart to heart and let them know how they are grating your nerves. Maybe they don’t know.
If they know and won’t change or can’t, or you can’t even broach the topic, then you have no choice but to learn how to better adapt to this particular stress.
This too, is a common factor for most.
Utility bill before pleasure
If a bill needs paying and you are directing funds to playtime activities, then do without until the bill is paid.
Then it can no longer bother you. Then you can return to your hobby.
Pet Rocks only
Maybe now is not the time for a new dog or cat.
Or maybe yours will have to room with someone else as you pull yourself back together.
If your mind is holding on by a thread, adding the need to care and support another living thing, by choice, is not you best option right now.
No fur, no fish, no feathers – hell, no plants – no nothing! Focus on yourself before trying to raise some other thing. For your sake and its.
Be VERY careful with this one!
Maybe a romantic relationship is not truly the great thing you think it is.
This can go all the way to marriage.
Matter of fact, your marriage may be driving you insane but it seems to be that all the problems around the marriage are actually causing the grief.
Again, this is tricky stuff and I am not advocating spur of the moment divorces as a way to solve all your problems. I’m just saying, look deeply and honestly at the situation, and see if a change may be necessary.
It’s gonna pop any day now!
Have you started a new venture that has been going on for many, many months, or years, and not showing a sensible return?
(Story of my life.)
It probably should go. Or at least reevaluate your approach to it and see if you can’t just focus more tightly on growing one aspect of the beast, instead of attacking the entire empire at once.
If it’s not frustrating you, it’s probably frustrating the hell out of your family, which then gets fed back to you as stress anyway. Level your head, and take another whack at it later.Action Plan for Step 5:
Not much by way of outside info I can direct you to for this one. This involves both introspection and retrospection on your part.
I’d suggest speaking to a third party, someone entirely separate from your life who deals with life issues, who can offer advice on your life in a detached fashion. Then you’d know you were getting the truth.
Something like a life coach or therapist would do the trick. You need someone who is not a part of your day-to-day life to give it to you straight and then help you find the tactful, rational ways to cut from your life what needs cutting.
Again, as you progress through your Holosync program this will all become clearer and easier to make happen.
It is a natural progression in the way you think and deal with problems and you don’t have to force it. You will just “get it” in many areas as you go.
As you may have guessed by now, I swear by Bill Harris and Centerpointe.