What’s It Take To Sit At The Big People’s Table? (Your Evolution)
- Accept responsibility for your fate
One of THE most empowering, yet simultaneously THE most horrifying concept to fully grasp is this: “No One Is Coming To Save You!” Empowering because you are free to pursue whatever you desire most to have the life of your dreams. Horrifying because you have to leave the herd to do so.
- Only you create your experiences
Nobody’s making you do anything. Nobody’s making you feel anything. And, possibly the most tragic awareness, nobody really cares about your hopes and dreams. They’re too busy with their own shit. So, whatever you’re experiencing, you’re its creator. So how about using that info to now go create something awesome instead?
- Become accountable
Set up an agreement with someone, anyone whose opinion matters to you, that you’ll do such and such at a pre-agreed upon time. Then repeat. Most of us just can’t pull off the Big Work without some sort of constant pressure applied. Go find your pressure. Go put your metaphorical head in that metaphorical vice and do the work of then saving yourself.
- Who expects you to be able to handle this?
This can be your accountability person. But this is more like loved ones and people whose lives are directly impacted by your decisions. Building your dream is going to involve sacrifice of all sorts. And investment. And faith. And trust. And patience. That’s a shit ton to ask of someone who already has their own life to worry about. Make sure you are honoring their belief in you by steadily making progress in all you do.
- What are you willing to give up or lose, in order to reach the next step?
This is probably going to be a laundry list for most of us. Pick apart your day and schedule and mercilessly weed out anything that has nothing to do with forwarding your dream. To be sure, there are variables and all work makes Jack a dull boy. You gotta fit in some play time somewhere. But make it less play and more work. At least in the beginning so this thing can build a head of steam.
As some of you have already learned, that first step is often the hardest. Take heart as I share some simple truths: You’re gonna fuck up. You’re gonna be wrong more often than right. You’re gonna embarrass yourself somewhere along the line. You’ll waste money. You’ll get taken advantage of. You have moments of despair. (Voice of experience talking to you here.) But eventually, you’ll start to make solid gains. UNLESS YOU NEVER START. In which case you’ll have what you had before you found me: a dream and an urge. Nothing more. Start.
- What’s your first major hurdle?
Chunk this out. Bite One: What’s the single biggest thing keeping you from starting? Attack that, and only that, until it’s been conquered before worrying about the next hurdle.
- What must you do to confront it?
Having identified said hurdle, what’s the best tool or next play available to you that would knock it out of the way the fastest? (This could be slow or fast. Anything you do that attacks that first hurdle is a win.)
- Identify your entrepreneurial strengths
If you’re building something to make money, and even if you’re not, you may find the Entrepreneur Personality Test from Wealth Dynamics puts your head where it needs to be to succeed at whatever your goal is.